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Your dream social life, love life, & sex life starts here in Relational Radiance

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Welcome [Video Transcript]

Hello and Welcome! Ya know, it’s hard to create a thriving social life, sexlife, & lovelife in a culture practically designed to keep people lonely. Just look at all the sex-negative shame, homophobia, & toxic masculinity, for example, is it any surprise we are literally in an epidemic of loneliness? And, sadly, gay men are more likely to become lonely than straight men or women. The research is clear: loneliness is worse for your health than a pack of cigarettes per day. Being lonely is not just depressing, it’s also bad for your mental and physical health – even quickening death.

But with all the toxic relationships around us it’s easy to feel hopeless. Many of us have never even seen anything different.

But the good news is that we’ve never had more relationship science to help us build resilient & fulfilling relationships – unlike our parents did. First hand I’ve witnessed how these powerful insights can catapult relational lives for many clients and even for myself.

Let me show you what’s possible – Your dream life. Just imagine – you’re happy and fulfilled. Living and loving the best life – 100% authentically you. You don’t care what the haters say and you keep them at bay. You cultivate an unstoppable confidence no matter your age or body type. You’re uninhibited and resilient to rejection. You’re comfortable & relaxed on dates and other social, sexual, and romantic situations. Your life is full of amazingly fulfilling and dynamic relationships – friends, community, a lover – or maybe you want several? A partner – or maybe a polycule. It’s your dream, so it’s your choice. You are shamelessly living the social life, love life, and sex life of your dreams – no matter how kinky, queer, or unconventional you are. You are living in, what I call, relational radiance. And whether you believe it or not, this life is totally possible.

But to overcome your blindspots to rise into relational radiance, you’ll need a guide. Someone highly educated, well trained, and experienced at helping people like you overcome obstacles to forge your dream life. A guide who has helped people like Oliver, at age 58, to “reclaim the ability to be intimate with someone.” A guide who, Nicholas (age 56) said “I feel that I quite literally owe the success of finding the relationship I’ve always wanted…”

As you’ve probably guessed, that guide is me. My name is Digger Keith, and I’m a dating, relationship, sex, and charisma coach. Whether you’re single or partnered, and no matter how kinky, queer or unconventional you are, I’m your coach to the sociallife, sexlife, and lovelife of your dreams.

Because EVERYONE deserves a life full of loving and fulfilling relationships. Join our movement to overcome the toxic culture around us to become an epic lover living in relational radiance. Begin your dream love story – your dream sexlife – your life in relational radiance today by scheduling a free discovery call right now. In this one-on-one private consultation, we’ll customize your roadmap of relational radiance for the life of your dreams. I will share my approach and answer all of your questions to help you plan the next steps.
The sooner you act, the quicker you can stop letting love and great sex pass you by. Plus – the more of your life you’ll get to love.

You’re at a crossroads. Do you want to continue missing out on great sex and deeply fulfilling relationships – risking loneliness, regrets, and missed opportunities? Potentially even dying alone? Or are you ready to invest in your destiny to become an epic lover living in relational radiance, pulsing with pleasure, living a legacy of love? What are you waiting for? Book your free discovery call today at diggerkeith.com

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Reviews

Testimonials

Nada / Charisma Coaching

Nada

From Dating Dud To Best Relationship Of His Life

“My work with Digger was nothing short of miraculous. After spending two years fumbling around on my own in the online dating world and having not much more than discouragement to show for it, I went from single to finding my partner and into the best relationship of my life in a period of a few months once I started working with Digger. There is no way I would have gotten here without Digger. He helped me figure out which platform was best for they type of relationship I wanted, then helped in the wording of my profile such that I was meeting people that were a much better fit. He helped me figure out what I was doing wrong in navigating sites and first meetings that was interfering in getting to know people. He’s up on the latest information and presents it in a down-to-earth, practical way. I feel that I quite literally owe the success of finding the relationship I’ve always wanted to Digger.”

Nicholas, age 56 (name changed for confidentiality)

[Digger] helped me reclaim the ability to be intimate with someone

“For the first time in a long time, I was comfortable with someone in an intimate space, with no fear of being hurt, or not meeting expectations. I could say “I can do this” and enjoy the moment….The feeling is indescribable; it is the true sense of “empowerment.” ….your smiles, and patience, and tenderness were an essential part of today’s accomplishment. Please accept my thanks, from the bottom of my heart. Every moment of intimacy from here forward will be in part because you helped me reclaim the ability to be intimate with someone. And that’s on top of all the outstanding information that you shared…” (Name changed to respect confidentiality)”

Oliver, age 58 (name changed for confidentiality)

Restore your confidence to make your dreams come true...

“Digger’s openness and non-judgmental embrace feels like I have made a new friend for life, one who not only cares about my happiness, but has the skills, heart and tools to make it happen. Somehow this beautiful guy is both man and boy, reassuring friend and hot stranger, a companion to go where you want, but also a leader whose wisdom will get you there safely. He can create an awakening for joyful new chapters in your life, and restore your confidence to make your dreams come true.”

Stan, Age 63 (name changed for confidentiality)

(Re)discover the inherently playful nature of sex...which makes me attractive

“Digger has an easy-going style that is supportive, non-judgmental, and nurturing….He genuinely enjoys what he does which I find empowering as it provides me the license to push through old boundaries…. he helped me (re)discover the inherently playful nature of sex and that which makes me attractive regardless of age, physique, or experience. He helped renew and accentuate my enthusiasm to explore, be myself, and gain a sense of confidence I never had. Digger provided me the chance to be confident around my sexuality. Confidence opens new doors to intense and playful opportunities. Community ideals regarding beauty continue to be our own worst enemy; Digger helps me distance myself from those ego deflators and barriers to fully enjoy and explore my sexuality. I find him an irresistible breath of fresh air. He is honest, earnest, and bright.”

Gabriel, age 51 (name changed for confidentiality)

Dating

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Dating & Mating

Whether you’re casually dating just for fun and self-discovery OR with the end goal of relationship(s), I can help. With the latest relationship science, we’ll sharpen your skills for dating AND for selecting to build a fulfilling and lasting partnership – whether monogamous or not. (HINT: Most of us are doing it wrong).

DATING & MATING SPECIALTIES: 

  • Dating made fun AND fruitful: It’s not just you – it has never been more challenging to date & mate. And yet, we’ve never had more enlightening relationship science to bolster your success. You CAN learn to make flirting, courting, and dating both fun and fruitful.
  • Finding & Building Profoundly Fulfilling Relationships: We can break the dysfunctional cycles of the past & thwart hidden biases. You CAN attract relationships unlike any you have ever seen – loving, fulfilling, & fabulously functional. No matter how unconventional.
  • Fearless Flirting – Learn the 7 nonverbal flirt signals for no more awkward situations or missed opportunities. I’ll be your no-stakes flirt buddy for practice.
  • Confidence Building – no matter your age or body type you deserve to reclaim your power.
  • Rejection Resilience – No matter how intimidating it used to be, you can learn to approach and flirt with anyone. Because you’ll know when & how to escalate or gracefully move on, you’ll be easy and relaxed. You’ll be unafraid because when it doesn’t work out, you’ll know how to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and immediately move on unscathed to the next opportunity with a smile.
  • Meeting Online &/or In-Real-Life – Learn endless ways to meet in real life, even outside of the bars, at any age. You’ll learn how to use the dating apps in a fun and fruitful way (most of us are doing it wrong!)
  • Date Ideas – that help you shine and use relationship science to help you find the perfect partner.
  • Relational & Emotional Intelligence CAN be developed for easier, more fulfilling relationships.
  • Charisma: Magnetize your likeability to up-level your desirability and deepen your relationships. Charisma IS most definitely learnable.
  • Partner Selection: Employ proven strategies to choose the best person for the job – whether that’s a professional, or selecting roommates, partners, friends, or lovers.
  • Humor/Comedy: Everyone, including you, can learn how to be more funny. We can develop a wicked, attractive sense of humor that is authentic to you.
  • Gay Sex & Gay/bi/curious Men (MSM): I work with all genders and orientations and specialize in MSM (men who sleep with men), as a gay man myself.

It’s hard to create a fulfilling lovelife & sexlife in our backwards culture. Whether you’re single or partnered, I can help you create the sexlife, lovelife, and social life of your dreams – no matter how wonderfully “weird”, kinky, queer, or unconventional you are. Because EVERYONE deserves a life full of loving & fulfilling relationships. Start living your dream life story today with a free discovery call.

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Sex & Intimacy

Sex Coaching | Intimacy Coaching

Our sex-negative culture affects all of us – directly, indirectly, or both. Enculturated sexual shame leads to disconnection, despair, & loneliness that can be healed through coaching. Sex & intimacy coaching outcomes can include:

  • The Hottest Sex Life: Understand & embrace your authentic desires & fantasies with ways to harness them in safe, sane, and consensual ways. Bridge differences with partners and dial up any turn-on – for yourself and others.
  • Red Hot Erotic Technique: Master basic to advanced sexual & relational techniques to become a seriously epic lover. Keep ‘em comin’ back for more.
  • Deeply Fulfilling Intimacy:  You’ll overcome obstacles with emotional and relational skills to build super yummy intimacy.
  • Shame Resilience and Sex-Negativity:  As ‘ruthless de-shamifiers’ we’ll uproot and protect against cultural sex-negativity, shame, & homophobia.
  • Sexual Health & Education: Get frank, non-judgmental, sex-positive facts rooted in pleasure and science – not dogma nor shame. Deconstruct cultural misinformation to empower your potential for amazing intimacy.
  • Overcome Sexual Challenges: Address anxiety, low confidence, erectile dysfunction, challenges to orgasm, lackluster sex, inexperience, & more.
  • Sexy Communication & Negotiation:  Learn effective verbal and non-verbal communication that feels sexy and natural. Talk dirty like a pro.
  • Consent:  You can navigate consent and boundaries in a way that makes the moment even hotter.
  • Get What You Want. Stop What You Don’t: Sense and share boundaries in a sexy, clear, and loving way – even a partner’s unsaid ‘No.’
  • Sex & Drugs: Get the nonjudgmental facts about drugs with harm reduction or cessation approaches if you like. You won’t need to self-medicate when you are empowered to shamelessly fulfill your sexual desires – no matter how kinky you are.

It’s hard to create a fulfilling lovelife & sexlife in our backwards culture. Whether you’re single or partnered, I can help you create the sexlife, lovelife, and social life of your dreams – no matter how wonderfully “weird”, kinky, queer, or unconventional you are. Because EVERYONE deserves a life full of loving & fulfilling relationships. Start living your dream life story today with a free discovery call.

 

Kink Coaching / BDSM Coaching

You deserve to understand, & embrace even your most taboo or unusual kink. I’m your non-judgmental, non-shaming, kink-knowledgable guide with ample resources no matter your desire. You are welcome to explore and evaluate kinky interests such as:
  • Learning about and understanding kinks and fetishes.
  • Options for safe, sane, and consensual exploration
  • BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadomasochism)
  • Connecting you with communities of similar interests
  • Skills building

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Benefits

Relationship Coaching

Intimacy Coaching

You can improve all types of relationships within your community, workplace, home, and bedroom. Outcomes can include:

  • Secure & rewarding relationships
  • Vibrant community
  • Finding & building the best partnership(s)
  • Deeper intimacy
  • Confidence at any age with any body type
  • Rejection resilience
  • Fearless flirting
  • Conversational savvy
  • More fun, play, & humor
  • Conflict resolution skills
  • Resolving LGBT issues like coming out, homophobia, shame, gender diversity, etc.
  • Bridging racial & cultural diversity
  • Overcoming anxiety
  • Emotional and relational intelligence
  • Preventing irritation & disappointment
  • Exploring, creating, and navigating relationships whether monogamous, open, or polyamorous.

These are just some of the issues we can address on your way toward the lovelife, sexlife, and social life of your dreams. Let’s start your epic love story today with a free discovery call to get acquainted and help you plan your next steps.

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Charisma

Charisma Coaching

Google ‘ugly hot’ to see Mick Jagger, Woody Harrelson & others who, despite rather goofy looking faces, have incredible sex appeal thanks to charisma. It’s never too late to develop your natural charisma without changing who you are.

Charisma will make you more:

  • Confident
  • Attractive
  • Desirable
  • Happy
  • Influential

The benefits of charisma are dramatic:

  • More effective leadership
  • Brighter moods & outlook
  • More enriching life experiences
  • More fulfilling relationships
  • Better career opportunities & advancement
  • Better social opportunities – more invitations
  • Higher caliber of community, friends, lovers, partners
  • Naturally poised for executive positions

We can develop your natural charisma for the life of your dreams. Start your exciting new chapter with a free discovery call.

The Work

We’ll start with candid conversations about your challenges and goals, including history where pertinent, so we can craft your roadmap to relational radiance. At each session we’ll check in and choose the next step at your growing edge.

Unlike traditional psychotherapy, aka ‘talk therapy’, my coaching process harnesses experiential learning for quicker transformation. You may be given homework between sessions but, whenever possible, we’ll overcome obstacles in session with embodied interventions – for example breath work, movement, or role-play.

This is a safe space for you to explore and grow into your best self. I’m not here to change who you ARE. I’m here to help you live your most authentic life while clearing obstacles like shame and re-imagining behaviors and beliefs that are no longer serving you. You can experiment within our relationship laboratory to get a true experience of what healthy relating looks and feels like so you can create that in real life.

I provide an encouraging, uplifting, and warm presence to help you relax. I balance profound inquiry with humor to guide your self-actualization in a playful, explorative way without judgment nor expectations.

Our work is strictly confidential unless to prevent potential violence to yourself or others (not including consensual BDSM acts).

60 minute sessions are available one-by-one or discounted within coaching packages worldwide via Zoom or in person in San Francisco and Oakland California.

It’s hard to create a fulfilling lovelife, sexlife, & social life in our backwards culture. Whether you’re single or partnered, I can help you create the life of your dreams – no matter how wonderfully “weird”, kinky, queer, or unconventional you are. Because EVERYONE deserves a life full of loving & fulfilling relationships. Start living your dream life story today with a free discovery call.

About Me

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Qualifications & Training:

SUMMARY: Trauma-informed relational radiance coaching since 2016 with extensive formal & informal education/training in psychology, sexuality, interpersonal dynamics, nonviolent communication, charisma, anatomy, physiology, habit formation, & comedy across 5+ decades of professional & personal life experiences, inspired by different cultural norms around relationships and sexuality from 6+ years exploring 60+ countries.

DETAILS: 

About Me:

I am a kinky, cisgender, mostly-gay daddy dude who values life-long learning and sexual, gender, and relationship diversity.

I grew up an awkward out-cast in sex-negative and homophobic middle America. The anguish of living inauthentically pushed me out of the closet in the early ’90s, when queer role models were scarce.

I am passionate about helping others overcome obstacles for a life full of joy, wonderful relationships, and mind-blowing sex. My vision is a world where everyone is empowered to live shamelessly and authentically.

It’s hard to create a fulfilling lovelife, sexlife, & social life in our backwards culture. Whether you’re single or partnered, I can help you create the life of your dreams – no matter how wonderfully “weird”, kinky, queer, or unconventional you are. Because EVERYONE deserves a life full of loving & fulfilling relationships. Start living your dream life story today with a free discovery call.

Schedule

 
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